Sometimes things don’t go the way we would like, or the way we feel we deserve in our marriage. “He never helps around the house.” “She doesn’t appreciate how hard you work.” “He is more invested in his job than his family.” “She is never satisfied.” “He just wants to watch sports all day.” “She cares more about the kids than me.” The list could go on and on. What to do when you are not feeling loved and/or appreciated in your marriage?
Chances are your spouse already knows how you are feeling. Telling them again is not going to yield different results. So instead, take it to the Lord in prayer.
Lay your complaints at the feet of Jesus. Pray for the Lord to bring you peace even while you are feeling neglected. Look for the loving way that God wants you to act towards your spouse. God always wants us to respond in love.
“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
In reality, the only person in the relationship we can truly change is ourselves. It is amazing how, so often, when we start intentionally making loving actions towards our spouse, even when we are not feeling that way, it begins to soften our hearts and they eventually start responding in kind.