Men and Women get their self-esteem in different ways. We each play an important role in this for our spouse.
Men generally get their self-esteem from their career and by providing for their family. A wife should be sensitive to this by believing in her husband, being interested in his career, and appreciating his efforts. In short, she needs to be his number one fan!
In general, women get their self-esteem from their relationships. The most important relationship is her husband. A husband should be sensitive to this important role in his wife’s life, and affirm her, appreciate her, and build her up daily. Let her know she is special to you and you cherish her!
A strong sense of who we are in Christ minimizes our need to draw on our spouse so heavily to build up our self-esteem. Everyone should ultimately receive their self-esteem from God. The healthiest self-esteem is present when we understand who we are in Christ and are built up by our spouse.