God was not surprised when Adam and Eve sinned. God is all-knowing and operates outside of space and time. He knew before Adam and Eve were even created that they would sin. He knew that all mankind would fall under the curse of sin. But God loved us so much that through Christ, He also provided a way for us to be brought back into relationship with Him.
The essence of sin is self-centeredness, or independence from God – the belief that we don’t need Him. As Oswald Chambers sums it up, “Independence is overrated!”
Adam and Eve were the first humans to turn their backs on God and rebelliously do what they wanted to do even though it was disobedient to God. It is interesting what happened immediately after Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit.
When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. ~ Gen. 3:6-7
This disobedience, or “sin,” made them feel the need to cover themselves, thus symbolically covering their sin. But man’s best attempts at covering his sin are only temporary; man needs a more perfect covering of sin through a Redeemer (“redeem” means to save). We all need a Jesus our Redeemer!
Sadly, Christians often take a “self-righteous” view of sin. In their narrow-mindedness, they may point out a certain style of dress, music, or behavior as being evil. They can also become prideful or judgmental, thinking their sin isn’t as bad as someone else’s. People like to righteously point at “this behavior” or “that behavior” as being evil.
As Christians, we have been saved through what Christ did for us through His death and resurrection, but while we are still in these bodies, we will continue to fall under the curse of sin. We will continue to fall short of God’s perfect standard. Instead of focusing on the flaws in others (including our spouse), it would be better to take a good look at ourselves and humbly recognize that every thought, word or deed that is not done perfectly in the spirit of loving God with all of our heart, mind, soul and strength; and loving others is not honoring God’s most important command to us. Jesus said,
Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? ~ Matthew 3:7
Come before God in prayer and confess your sins to Him. Thank Him for sacrificing His Son as payment for your sins. Ask God to reveal any sin in your life that you attempt to cover up or minimize? Commit to God that you will change your behavior in these areas. Share your discovery with your spouse and ask him/her to support you in honoring God with these changes.