Our free will often draws us to live a “self-centered,” “self-focused” life instead of being in right relationship with God as Lord of our lives and being there for our spouse. The essence of sin is self-centeredness, or independence from God—the belief that we don’t need Him. The essence of God’s plan for us is communion with Him. He loves us and wants us to:
Love the Lord our God with all of our heart, soul, and mind…And…Love your neighbor as yourself ~ Matthew 22:37, 39.
Although we love God, it is impossible to be perfectly focused on loving God and loving others every minute of every day. Even with our best efforts, we still sin every day. God wants us recognize the sin in our lives, repent and turn away from sinning in that way again.
Using the following excerpt from Psalm 32 as a motivation, spend some quiet time with God asking Him to reveal to you how you have sinned against Him and how you have not loved your spouse the way God desires. Ask for God’s forgiveness and repent (to repent means to feel or express remorse about one’s sin and to desire to turn away from that behavior).
Blessed is the one whose transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. Blessed is the one whose sin the LORD does not count against them and in whose spirit is no deceit. When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night Your hand was heavy on me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to You and did not cover up my iniquity. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD.” And You forgave the guilt of my sin ~ Psalm 32:1-5